I guess I am a communist. I mean, I must be, because sometimes more than others I feel like I am in the moral minority.

So we’re talking about marriage today. I believe that I care more about the institution of marriage than to say things like, “Well you gotta test drive a car before you buy it…it’s like that with marriage and sex.” The day that love is reduced to a perverse car analogy in my life is the day that I embed a 12 gauge slug into the back of my mouth…real fast like…maybe from a gun? Who knows…maybe I’ll get creative, but the heart of what I am doing is still there.

So what’s the problem here? Maybe I am naïve, maybe I am immature, but I am pretty sure that it has to do with the fact that I don’t use my ass as both an instrument to sit on and to think from because so many people seem to think that love is nothing, that it is being safe, and being with someone because it works. That is ridiculous. I suppose that in order to lambaste people for mistaking sex for love I should clarify something: sex is not love…love is sex. In other words, having sex does not mean you love someone. If you love someone, sex is something that comes. It is the ultimate form of intimacy, and you will never feel as close to someone as you do then.

So that being said…why would you want to inflict all of that on a relationship that you have not even taken the time to recognize legally. Why get so close to someone that you haven’t made a public commitment to. Why put so much into a relationship with someone that you might just walk away from. The deal is this: Marriage, although not so binding as it once was, is still more binding than dating. People are more apt to stick with someone through the hard times when they are legally bonded to that person.

So let’s create an example:

John moved in with someone, had sex with them, and then hit a really rough spot in the relationship. In the midst of the rough spot, John gets to thinking, “I still have time…this is not the person…it’s not like we’re married or anything.” The mistake John has made is that he put so much time and intimacy into a relationship that he didn’t care enough about to produce a marriage License.

Aside from every religious reason that people can site, I believe that, logically, living with a person and having sex with them is the least practical thing one could do.. And as for test-driving? If you really need to know what someone is like before you get there, I would be inclined to believe you don’t love him or her. If you truly loved someone, it wouldn’t matter how “good” the sex was, it would be amazing because of who it was with.. But I’m a loud idiot…what do I know?

Thanks for stopping by…I know I sure enjoyed it.

-Luke Snyder