So sometimes I apologize…it isn’t really my fault but I am simply sympathizing. For instance, one guy says to me, “Someone broke into my house and stole all my money and killed my entire family.” I say back to him, “Geesh man…I’m sorry.” And he’s like, “You killed my family?”

Well of course I didn’t kill his family…unless of course I was some sort of psycho. The point I am getting at here is the point of saying sorry for the art of sympathizing. It is a nice thought, but is it truly effective? I understand that what someone is really saying by this is, “I feel sorry for you.” The end thought there is that I just would rather not have to deal with people being sorry for me. That is not exactly where I want to take this though.

Actually where I want to take this is my own apologizing. Sometimes I am so sorry that I keep apologizing. I apologize over and over and over, but what I am really saying by this is. “I’m not sorry that I did that, but I am sorry that it had those consequences on you.” Because seriously, that is the real shame of everything, that whatever I did had adverse affects on that person.

I am watching the movie Beautiful Girls right now and I realized something. This movie, in one of the best ways I have ever seen, talks about how the beauty that is skin deep may attract, but that guys should really do a better job of seeing a different beauty. It is one of my favorite movies. I think the reason I love the movie the most is because of something that Uma Thurman says. Her and the main character (Timothy Hutton) are having a conversation about girls and about how he thinks that it is awesome that some guy gets to be with Uma Thurman’s character and “pepper her belly with baby kisses.” She says in reply.

“The thing is that there is a guy out there that feels the same way about Tracy (his girlfriend) and he’s jealous that you get to do all that with her.”

It would seem as though there is very little to do with this and the beginning of this editorial, but hang tight…I am getting there.

So in the end…I am sure that there is always going to be someone out there that looks at a girl and wishes that he was with her, but it can’t be that way because she is with someone else. What I have also realized is that whether or not I think that guy is right for her or not, or whether or not I think I am the right guy, or whether or not I think it could ever work out…there comes a point where I need to just stop. Really, there comes a point where everyone needs to stop. But we still don’t…so we find ourselves apologizing after we take things too far, but like I said earlier, we aren’t apologizing for what we did…we are apologizing for the adverse after effect of our actions. In the end I am not sorry for what I’ve done, I am just sorry for making her feel torn and sick…and making myself feel lost and lovelorn. So why do I put myself in these situations...hmmm...ask yourself, you probably know better than I do...'cause I have no friggin' idea.

I guess the movie doesn’t really have anything to do with apologizing other than the fact that it relates to a situation where I have apologized repeatedly.

Anyway, the deal?

Maybe I don’t have one anymore…I am sorry if this editorial makes no sense. Wait, there I go apologizing again.

Thanks for stopping by…I know I sure enjoyed it.

-Luke Snyder